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Liberty in sex for husband & wife?

Assalamu Alaikum: An Indonesian frend asked me a question: Can husband and wife bathe together. And can a husband and wife can see other's private parts during intercourse or during bathing or other time. Now i request u to guide me regarding answer....


بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

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Allah says in the Qur'an, "They (your wives) are your garments. And you are their garments." Quran[2: 187]

Narrated Hisham bin 'Urwa: (on the authority of his father) 'Aisha said, "Whenever Allah's Apostle took the bath of Janaba, he cleaned his hands and performed ablution like that for prayer and then took a bath and rubbed his hair, till he felt that the whole skin of the head had become wet, then he would pour water thrice and wash the rest of the body." 'Aisha further said, "I and Allah's Apostle used to take a bath from a single water container, from which we took water simultaneously." Sahih Al-Bukhari[Vol 1, Book 5, No. 272]

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet and Maimuna used to take a bath from a single pot. Sahih Al-Bukhari[Vol 1, Book 5, No. 253]

Narrated 'Aisha: The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot called 'Faraq' Sahih Al-Bukhari[Vol 1, Book 5, No. 250]

Narrated Aisha: The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot of water and our hands used to go in the pot after each other in turn. Sahih L-Bukhari[Volume 1, Book 5, Number 261]

Narrated 'Aisha: The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot while we were Junub. During the menses, he used to order me to put on an Izar (dress worn below the waist) and used to fondle me. While in Itikaf, he used to bring his head near me and I would wash it while I used to be in my periods (menses). Sahih Al-Bukhari[Vol 1, Book 6, No. 298]

Thus it is clear from the above guidance of Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) that there is no harm if the husband and wife like to bath together.

Your question: And can a husband and wife can see other's private parts during intercourse or during bathing or other time.

Islam has given liberty to the husband & wife as Allah Says in the Holy Quran:

Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will. Quran[2:223]

Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: 'The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife."' The companions asked: 'O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded." Related by Ahmad and Muslim.

Islam has allowed the husband and the wife every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal relations with each other, except three:

1. It is strictly prohibited to have sexual intercourse with one's wife during her period of menstruation.

2. It is strictly prohibited to enter the woman through her anus.

Narrated byAbdullah ibn Abbas Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) received the revelation, "Your wives are a tilth to you, so come to your tilth.....", that means from in front or behind, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation. Al-Tirmidhi [Hadith: 3191]

3. Oral sex

Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy conjugal relations with one's wife any place, any time, and any how their heart's desire. There is absolutely no 'satr' between a husband and a wife bonded in the sacred institution of marriage in Islam, and there is absolutely no harm and no restriction in Shariah if one sees, touches, rubs, or fondles, etc. the private parts of their spouse with their hands during their union.

I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.

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