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I rejected a boy for five years, I do not want to marry him but he does not let me go.

I rejected a boy for five years, but he would not let loose and would not accept my no. Over the five years we would rarely talk but he would try to get information over my family. I agreed once to marry him out of guilt and sorry for him. I regret it and I realised I used him as a emotional stabilisation when my life was really hard and sad. The brother is mashaAllah very faithful but he does not meet my needs, I dislike every thing else on him. I do not want to marry him but he does not let me go. Can I just go? Would I have to face consequences ? Cause he claims we are engaged cause my father would not mind him but we did not had any ceremony or anything.

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

We begin with Allah’s blessed name, we praise him and we glorify him, seek his forgiveness and ask him to guide us. Whoever Allah guides, None can lead astray and whoever he misguides, None can guide. There is no power and no strength except from Allah, The most high, the Most great, the most powerful. We bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers. We pray for peace and blessings on all the noble messengers and in particular on the last of them all “the blessed prophet Mohammad (pbuh)”

I don’t want to marry him but he does not let me go. Can I just go?

Dear sister, marriage is a life-long commitment two people make to each other to love, honor and respect each other in matrimony. It is not a decision one should make solely on emotions or on whims and promises.

You should make sure you marry a man with whome you could live a happy and prosperous life. if you do not want to marry a particular man you are well with in right to reject the proposal. You should seek guidance of allah and the advice of elders in choosing a partner in marriage.

Would I have to face consequences ? Cause he claims we are engaged cause my father wouldnot mind him but we didnot had any ceremony or anything.

Dear sister, the truth of the matter is that an engagement has absolutely no legal basis in Islam. if you are not happy, then there will be problems afterwards so to the best of my knowledge you should avoid such marriage. And Allah alone knows the best.

I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.

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