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Wife considers every thing impure that is touched by her while in sexual impurity?

This is regarding tahirat my wife does not sleep next to me she feels if we have sex then every thing gets impure and she every time wash everything we used during sex she even bathes my son who is 5 year old another one 5 months old she feels as God has made ghusl farz so if we have sex we need to clean everything like bedsheets blankets and if we sit on sofa without ghusl then even that she thinks after ghusl if we sit on that bedsheets we become impure and because of this problem we don't have sex due to which I get ethelam during sleep and for that also she follows same washes bedsheets blankets and bathe my son please help me understand her how much cleaning is required . Should we wash bathroom also if we have used it after sex.


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Allah says in the Quran:...If ye are in a state of 'ceremonial impurity' or 'sexual impurity' bathe your whole body. QURAN[5:6]

The acts which make Gusul obligatory and constitute 'ceremonial impurity' or 'sexual impurity' are:

  1. having Full sexual intercourse with wife.
  2. Full release of sexual emission (wet dreams, orgasm).
  3. If the male private organ touches the female private organ.
  4. Post menstruation i,e. after the menstural period.

If the husband and wife have sex then the 'gusul' becomes obligatory only on the husband and wife and not on the kids sleeping next to their parents. If the wife feels that some impurity had touched the bed sheets then she should wash them.

Dear brother, believing that if one is in the sexual impurity and sits on the sofa then sofa becomes impure is nothing but absolute ignorance. Or if one believes that sitting on the bed sheet used during the sexual intercourse makes one impure is also nothing but the ignorance. If the husband and wife uses the bathroom to enjoy the conjugal relation, then there is no harm and there is no need to wash the bathroom.

Narrarted Abu HurairaAllah's Apostle (Pbuh) said, " If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relations) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning." Sahih Al-Bukhari [Vol. 4 Hadith No. 460 & Sahih Muslim Vol. 2 Hadith No. 3368]

Narrated Abu HurairaThe Messenger of Allah (swt) said: By him in whose hand is my life, when a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond, the One Who is in the heaven is displeased with her untill he (her husband) is pleased with her. Sahih Muslim [Vol. 2 Hadith No. 3367]

In Islam it is ‘wajib’ for a wife to fulfill the desire of her husband, thus she should pay heed to the call of her husband and should protect him from straying. Depriving ones husband from sex is something that displeases the lord, and the believing women would never want that her lord should get displeased with her. And Allah alone knows the best.

I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.

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