بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
We begin with Allah’s blessed name, we praise him and we glorify him, seek his forgiveness and ask him to guide us. Whoever Allah guides, None can lead astray and whoever he misguides, None can guide. There is no power and no strength except from Allah, The most high, the Most great, the most powerful. We bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers. We pray for peace and blessings on all the noble messengers and in particular on the last of them all “the blessed prophet Mohammad (pbuh)”
Narrated by Aisha (r.a.), Ummul Mu'minin A woman made a sign from behind a curtain to indicate that she had a letter for the Messenger of Allah (saws). The Prophet (saws) closed his hand, saying: 'I do not know this is a man's or a woman's hand.' She said: 'No, a woman.' The Prophet (saws) then said: 'If you were a woman, you would make a difference to your nails (or hands) by applying henna.' ABU-DAWOOD
From the above guidance of our beloved prophet Mohammad (pbuh), the applying of henna on hand or feet is permissible only for women.
Narrated AbuDharr: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: The best things with which grey hair are changed are henna and katam. ABU-DAWOOD[BOOK:33, HADITH: 4193]
Thus the applying of henna on hand ( or on little finger) by men on their marriage is absolutely against the clear guidance of our beloved prophet (pbuh).The applying of henna on hand or feet is only for women, so if any male believer applies henna on his hand or on feet, is taking the similitude of the women and our beloved prophets Mohammad(pbuh) invoke the curse of Allah on those men who assume the manners, dress, etc. of women.
Narrated by Ibn Abbas The Prophet (saws) invoked the curse of Allah on the effeminate men (those men who are in the similitude (or assume the manners, dress, etc. of women), and those women who assume the similitude (or manners, dress, etc. of men). SAHIH AL-BUKHARI[VOL:7, HADITH:774]
Dear brother, it is absolutely unfortunate that the custom of applying henna to the little finger on the mehandi rath( night of heena) is very prevalent in the Kashmir, one should follow the customs if and only if they are not against the guidance of shariah, if any custom violates any command of shariah, then that custom should be avoided, and efforts should be made to make the believers know the ruling of shariah against the custom. And Allah alone knows the best.
I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.Ask Your Question