بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
We begin with Allah’s blessed name, we praise him and we glorify him, seek his forgiveness and ask him to guide us. Whoever Allah guides, None can lead astray and whoever he misguides, None can guide. There is no power and no strength except from Allah, The most high, the Most great, the most powerful. We bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers. We pray for peace and blessings on all the noble messengers and in particular on the last of them all “the blessed prophet Mohammad (pbuh)”
Engagement: the engagement is a ritual, where by a man and a women agrees to marry in future without signing the nikah contract.
There is absolutely nothing like ‘engagement’ before marriage in Islam and the engagement has no legal binding in Shariah law, because even if a man and women is engaged they are still non-mehrams to each other.
If one performs this ceremony of engagement as a religious deed to earn goodwill from Allah, then indeed one is inventing a new thing into the pure, perfect and complete deen of Islam. And thus would be considered a Bidah.
It is indeed true that the ceremony of engagement is a cultural thing and is not something that is endorsed by Islam. If any cultural ritual goes beyond the prescribed boundaries of Shariah then indeed that ritual would be considered haram in the sight of Shariah law.
Dear sister if the engagement function is held within the boundaries of Shariah, ie no shameful activity is present, then there is no harm in attending it and one can eat sweets or any other food offered. But if it contains objectionable aspects, such as mixing between men and women, shameless singing or other shameful activity, then indeed one should avoid such functions and should fear Allah. However if one has ability to stop them or to educate them about the objectionable aspects according to Islam, then one must attend such function.
And leave alone those who take their religion as play and amusement, and are deceived by the life of this world. But remind (them) with it (the Quran) lest a person be given up to destruction for that which he has earned, when he will find for himself no protector or intercessor besides Allâh, and even if he offers every ransom, it will not be accepted from him. Such are they who are given up to destruction because of that which they have earned. For them will be a drink of boiling water and a painful torment because they used to disbelieve. Quran[6:70]
Thus if one sees any evil act while one is the function, then one must advise them, and one should not get concerned who gets angry with him/her, rather one should always remember oneself that obedience to Allah and His Messenger is uppermost. And Allah alone knows the best.
I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.Ask Your Question