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I’m 23 year old women, want to marry a guy but my parents are opposing?

I 'm 23 years old women i have done lot of sins Allah knows better...i want to do neekh in order to stay away from sins which i had comitted before i ask by parents about thisand told about the guy also but they refused and told dont ask me anything like this again what to do and the guy which i choose is very much islamic and of good status...

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

We begin with Allah’s blessed name, we praise him and we glorify him, seek his forgiveness and ask him to guide us. Whoever Allah guides, None can lead astray and whoever he misguides, None can guide. There is no power and no strength except from Allah, The most high, the Most great, the most powerful. We bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers. We pray for peace and blessings on all the noble messengers and in particular on the last of them all “the blessed prophet Mohammad (pbuh)”

Allah, the Exalted, says:

"And ask forgiveness for your sin...'' Quran [47:19]

"And seek the forgiveness of Allah. Certainly, Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'' Quran [4:106]

"And declare the freedom of your Rubb from imperfection beginning with His praise, and ask His forgiveness. Verily, He is the One Who accepts the repentance and Who forgives.'' Quran [110:3]

"And whoever does evil or wrongs himself but afterwards seeks Allah's forgiveness, he will find Allah Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'' Quran [4:110]

"And those who, when they have committed Fahishah (illegal sexual intercourse) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins; - and none can forgive sins but Allah - and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know.'' Quran [3:135]


The only thing a true believer can do when one has wronged ones soul(ie done any sin), is to fell in front of Allah, and seek sincere repentance from Allah (from whatever wrong one has done) and make a promise with Allah that in future you will never repeat, whatever wrong one has done. And Insha’Allah one will find the lord most merciful and oft-forgiving, no matter how big sins one has done in ones past, Allah the most merciful will forgive, but one should be sincere while seeking repentance.

Humans are prone to errors, so every man commits sins. But Allah likes those people who, after committing a sin, do not stick to it, but right away seek forgiveness for their sins from Allah. They weep and express sorrow before Allah. By seeking forgiveness, a relationship with Allah is established between man and his Creator. So seeking forgiveness is a very good act.

marriying with a guy?

In Islam, marriage is the union of two unknown souls of opposite sex, in which they become permitted to each other, and begin their long journey of life in a spirit of love, cooperation, Harmony and tolerance, where the two find peace and satisfaction in association and attachment with each other. This is the wise arrangement which the Creator has made, the means of the survival of the human race, on the one hand, and of bringing the human civilization into existence, on the other. Allah says in the glorious Quran:

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. Quran [30:21]

In marriage Allah has puts love and mercy, through which the two remain united in happiness as well as in grief, become support to each other, enjoy each other, and keeps them away from sins like illegal sexual intercourse.

Islam encourages the believers to marry men or women of their choice amongst the believers. Our beloved prophet said:

Narrated by Anas ibn Malik Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half." Al-TIRMIDHI[3096]

Islam has honored women with a right to choose her husband and has prohibited parents to force her to marry to someone she doesn’t like.

Dear sister, If you are in a situation where you want to marry a guy and the guy is also willing to marry you, but your parents are not interested in marrying you with him, then you should try to convince your parents, and if they still are not convinced then in that case you should marry the one whom both your parents and you approve of. And you should not disobey your parents in any way.

"And your lord has decreed that you worship none but him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour." QURAN [17:23]

"And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."" QURAN[17:24]


It would absolutely not be considered righteousness, (in whatever situation) for believing women to arrange her own marriage without the approval of parents.

Islam also guides that the parents should not force their son/daughter to marry someone he/she does not wish to marry, nor should son/daughter force his /her parents. marriage is not merely a union of two people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole families...thus if one is faced with a situation whereby their son/daughter is in 'love' with an eligible boy/girl (believer, chaste, etc.) and the parents of the boy/girl are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the boy/girl....they should accede with the choice and request of their son/daughter.

Narrated byAbuHurayrah Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption.' Tirmidhi, Nasa'i and Ibn Majah transmitted it. AL-TIRMIDHI[Hadith 3090]

So dear sister you should try to convince your parents, if the man is righteous and your parents are still opposing, then my humble request to your parents is, they should change their position, and should allow you to marry the man of your choice. And Allah alone knows the best.

I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.

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