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Praying for marrage with a Particular girl?

asalam e alikum ..... i want to know about my friend .... he want to marry with a girl be she z having islamic knowledge and so on simultaneously Girl z also willing but her parents going to marry her somewhere else . now my friend is telling can i pray to Allah for this with deep intentions either how can he change his fate regarding the mentioned question ....


بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

We begin with Allah’s blessed name, we praise him and we glorify him, seek his forgiveness and ask him to guide us. Whoever Allah guides, None can lead astray and whoever he misguides, None can guide. There is no power and no strength except from Allah, The most high, the Most great, the most powerful. We bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers. We pray for peace and blessings on all the noble messengers and in particular on the last of them all “the blessed prophet Mohammad (pbuh)”

"... marry women of your choice two or three or four; but if you fear that you will not be just, then (marry only) one ..." quran[4:3]

Islam encourages the believers to marry men or women of their choice amongst the believers. Our beloved prophet said:

Narrated by Anas ibn Malik Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half." Al-TIRMIDHI[3096]

In Islam marriage is Sunnah, but obeying parents is absolutely obligatory (fard-ayn) on every believer, as Allah says in the Quran:

"And your lord has decreed that you worship none but him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour." QURAN [17:23]

"And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."" QURAN[17:24]

If you are in a situation where you want to marry a girl and the girl is also willing to marry you, but her parents are not interested in marrying their daughter with you, She should try to convince her parents, and if they still are not convinced then in that case she should marry the one whom her parents approve of, she should not disobey her parents in any way.

It would absolutely not be considered righteousness, (in what ever situation) for believing women to arrange her own marriage with out the approval of parents.

Islam also guides that the parents should not force their son/daughter to marry someone he/she does not wish to marry, nor should son/daughter force his /her parents. marriage is not merely a union of two people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole families...thus if one is faced with a situation whereby their son/daughter is so in 'love' with an eligible boy/girl (believer, chaste, etc.) and the parents of the boy/girl are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the boy/girl....they should accede with the choice and request of their son/daughter.

Narrated byAbuHurayrah Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption.' Tirmidhi, Nasa'i and Ibn Majah transmitted it. AL-TIRMIDHI[Hadith 3090]

can i pray to Allah for this with deep intentions either how can he change his fate regarding the mentioned question ....

If you sincerely love someone and wish to marry him or her, then there is absolutely no harm if one supplicates to Allah. For Allah indeed hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant.

Allah says in the Quran: And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright! QURAN[2:186]

Each and every lawful supplication that a believer makes unto Allah is heard and answered by Allah; for Allah is indeed All Hearing, All Knowing.

Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri The Prophet (saws) said, "Any Muslim who makes a supplication containing nothing which is sinful, or which involves breaking ties of relationship, will be given for it by Allah one of three things: He will give him swift answer, or store it up for him in the next world, or turn away from him an equivalent amount of evil." Those who heard it said they would then make many supplications and he (saws) replied that Allah was more ready to answer than they were to ask. Al-Tirmidhi [2257]

Allah knows what is good and what is bad for us; therefore, if one asks for something good and lawful, Allah will give him/her one of three things:

Allah will give the believer what he/she has supplicated for.

If what the believer is asking is not good or harmful for the believer in this world, Allah will store it for him for the world of the Hereafter.

If what the believer is asking is not good or harmful for the believer in this world, Allah will turn away from the believer an equivalent amount of evil. And Allah alone knows the best.

I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.

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