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Falling in love with opposite sex?

Falling in love with someone is all natural, and a person is unable to control such feeling, then why Islam has prohibited this?


بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

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There are two types of love, pure and impure:
The pure love is the love that is absolutely for the sake of Allah, such as the love for your family, love for your (same sex) friends, relatives, love for Prophet Mohammad (pbuh), love for the Allah etc. In this type of love there is a blessing from Allah.

Where as the impure love is the love which accompanies evil, such as the love between a non-mehram girl and a boy. In Islam if any thing has been declared prohibited, then all the roads leading to it are also prohibited.

Allah says in the Quran: Do not even go near 'zina' (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way! QURAN[17:32]

Allah clearly says that we should not even go near to zina, which also means that we should not follow any of the way that leads to zina.

Narrated byUmar ibn al-Khattab The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, the Shaitaan is the third." Al-Tirmidhi [3118]

When opposite sexes fell in love then shaitan starts whispering in their hearts, and shaitan keep them busy in shameful acts.

Allah Says in the Quran:
Say: The things that my Lord hath indeed forbidden are: 'fahisha' (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge. QURAN[7:33]

In today's modern world having boyfriend and girlfriend is common, and due to this majority of illegal sexual intercourse's take place. In United States alone a report in 2006 showed that almost all Americans had sex before marriage and unfortunately this fashion has started to crept inside the Muslim community too.

This is because if the heart is filled with ikhlaas for the sake of Allaah, there will be no space left for any unlawful love to be present, rather this only happens to a heart that is empty and has no ikhlaas whatsoever.

So if you sincerely fear allah you should first and foremost strengthen your Tawheed and reliance upon Allaah, and secondly to increase in worship and busy yourself with it, so much so that you do not have any spare time letting your minds wander and think about your beloved.

And you should call upon Allaah to protect and save you from this evil, just as Prophet Yusuf called upon Allaah and he was saved. And you should do as he did, be as he was, in terms of ikhlaas (sincerity) and remembering Allaah in abundance.

And let me remind you that whatever Allaah has decreed for you is best for you, and when Allaah commands something it is never to cause harm or misery to His slaves.

And let me also remind you that your unlawful love does not benefit you, neither in this world nor in the hereafter!

however If you indeed like anyone and want to marry him/her, do the honorable thing and approach him/her father/guardian and seek him/her hand in marriage.

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you, that you may find rest in them, and He envisaged between you love and compassion ... Quran[ 30:21]

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage." (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)

So impure love is prohabited in islam, because of the fact that it leads to ZINA and other shameful acts. And Allah alone knows the best.

I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.

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